Good Advices

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I had a neighbor whom I asked for advice once. He was a lawyer and said, "free advice is worth what you pay for it." He was also cheating on his wife and left her suddenly and hurtfully, so screw him.

Advice given well is a good thing. How can one give advice well? Give it as though it were a gift. The person receiving it can take it or not, keep it or return it as they see fit. That's the way I'm giving the following.

Most important: Listen to Cuomo not Trump. I know this sounds like politics, but if you have been watching both of them you know which one is being reasonable, thoughtful of others, and depending on experts. Cuomo is telling the truth. Don't be fooled by charlatans.

Astronaut Mark Kelly writing in The New York Times says "I spent a year in space, and I have tips on isolation to share. Take it from someone who couldn't: Go outside." For those not wanting to read the whole thing, here are the bullet points:

  • Follow a schedule (Get up, go to bed, and have dinner together at the usual times.)
  • But pace yourself (Take time to have fun. Take time to do nothing. Breathe.)
  • Go outside (But don't do crowds. Don't visit friends in person. Walk the dog.)
  • You need a hobby (Be creative.)
  • Keep a journal (Writing is just the greatest.)
  • Take time to connect (Call your parents. Call your kids. Call everyone you love.)
  • Listen to experts (Not those who pose as experts.)
  • We are all connected (For better and worse. Help each other. Don't infect one another.)
  • And wash your hands — often (More often than you think you should.)

And then there's Leo Babauta who talks about how to cope:

  1. Breathe deeply into the belly (Learn this and you'll feel a real difference.)
  2. Check on your feelings, give yourself compassion (Say okay to your feelings.)
  3. Find calm in the middle of a storm (Find it within you and maybe in a quiet space or practice.)
  4. Send compassion out to others (Once you're in a better place, share that with others.)

There's more of course. Share back with me the best things you advise.

Take care of you and yours.

(You might want to listen to R.E.M.'s Good Advices. That always makes me feel good.)